Let me define my use
of the term “artist” for you. An artist is anyone who works in
any type of art medium. That is, your standard “artist”, such as
a painter, but also writers, photographers, directors, musicians,
actors, chefs, etc. I consider myself an artist, and the majority of
my friends and family are as well. We have a bad rep in general, so
let me break this down for you in order for you to better
“understand” us.
Everyone knows the
stereotypes of artists: whiny, usually young(ish), hipster-types, who
claim that they’re misunderstood and just want everyone to love
them. This is wrong. Okay, well, mostly wrong. Yes, we artists do
whine, yes a lot of us are young and we do want people to love us,
but not for the reasons most people think.
There is another
common stereotype with artists that we have vices, that we’re
alcoholics or druggies and the like. This, unfortunately, is often
true, but for a very important reason. A lot of people who are the
creative artsy types have all kinds of vices to “help” them along
in life. They are on medication (prescribed or not), they do drugs
(legal and illegal), they suffer from many, many psychological and
mental illnesses including but not limited to depression, insomnia,
ADD, ADHD, OCD, paranoia, schizophrenia, psychosis, etc.
Why are we this way?
It’s simple and complicated at the same time. Our brains will. Not.
Stop. Working. Even when we’re asleep (or trying to sleep in some
cases). We are constantly thinking of new songs, poems, drawings,
stories, camera angles, characters we need to become, or recipes to
create. We cannot stop thinking about the best way to do whatever our
chosen craft is and we must continue perfecting it until our dying
day.
I,
personally, procrastinate and sometimes never finish projects because
I have an immense fear of failure. And I know that I am not the only
one who feels this way. But, regardless of this fear, and because my
brain will never stop thinking about creative ideas, I cannot be
stifled. Artists must never
be stifled. Why? Because, then we fall into the depression, or the
alcohol, or we become over-caffeinated. If we don’t have an outlet,
we cannot survive.
Sometimes
as artists, we need to stifle this creativity when there is too much
coming at us at once. Sometimes we are begging on our knees for just
a word, a whisper, to help kick-start something new so that we can
have that outlet. This does not excuse any actions, or addictions,
but it explains them to the people who are not artists.
In
most schools, we are taught to think “A” then “B” then “C.”
But our artist brains are already on “Q” before you’ve gotten
to “D”, and we are plotting and planning on how we can tie that
back to “J” in a way that makes sense to other people besides
ourselves. There is nothing “wrong” with this way of thinking.
There is nothing “wrong” with artists. It is far more than being
“misunderstood.” A non-creative person, a non-artist, will never
get it. No explanation will ever be sufficient.
For
example, when you’re a parent, you can try to explain to someone
that moment when you heard your child’s first cry, the tears
welling up in your eyes and the goosebumps appearing on your skin as
you remember it vividly. But every non-parent will never get it, no
matter how detailed or emotional an explanation you give them.
Do
not expect an artist to fit into your cute little box of normality.
Because our boxes are covered in every color and pattern you can
possibly imagine. Our boxes are bigger on the inside. Our boxes are
all kinds of different shapes and sizes. Our boxes are filled with
countless images and ideas that would make your head explode. Our
boxes cover multiple levels and so many dimensions that you can’t
even think of. We are not, and never will be, “normal.”
So, the next time
you talk to or hang out with an artist, thank them for their work,
encourage them, offer constructive criticism if asked. We bleed for
our work and it is never, ever good enough for us. We are more often
than not way too hard on ourselves and we fear that we will get lost
in our work and forget reality. Sadly, our work is sometimes better
than our reality, which is why so many artists are depressed or
addicted to something. If an artist shows you their work, remember
that it is something they are proud of. It is something they have
spent many a sleepless night working on, something that they have
sometimes literally bled for, and if they want you to see it, to
experience it, that is a big freaking deal.
Do not take it
lightly.
If
an artist asks for an opinion or a review, give it. Honestly. Don’t
just tell them “Oh, that’s good.” Tell them why
you liked it. Tell them what,
specifically you loved and didn’t love about it. How did it make
you feel? Did it leave a good or a bad taste in your mouth? What made
you cringe? What made you laugh? What made you cry? What could they
change to make it that much better? Or do you honestly believe that
it is great as it is? Tell them.
Hopefully,
this gives at least some insight into the inner workings of artists
everywhere and can help you to better understand us “poor
unfortunate souls.” Celebrate the differences, don’t ostracize
because you don’t think the same. Yes, we are weird. Yes, we will
complain. Yes, we will be neurotic and depressed and psychotic. Get
over it.
And,
here’s a bit for my fellow artists:
StandUp by The Cab
This. Is. Perfect. And beautiful and so true. It's like you've looked inside my mind and put my inner thoughts out there so much better than I have ever been able to express them to others. This needs to be required reading for all the people in my life.
ReplyDeleteI've somehow never considered myself an artist. A writer, yes, but somehow not an artist. Reading your description has made me realize that this is me, too. Especially where you wrote, "Our brains will. Not. Stop. Working. Even when we’re asleep (or trying to sleep in some cases). We are constantly thinking..." and so many other things you described.
ReplyDeleteYou write beautifully, my dear. You Have a gift. Thank you for using it to help me better see my own.